Hey girl, you should masturbate more
The conversation around sex is ever-changing, but what about masturbation? Getting in tune with our bodies through masturbation, especially as females, is healthy and empowering.
While sexuality exists on a spectrum, females should know their solo time is not only normal but should be celebrated. Masturbation has long been addressed and directed toward males, often excluding females, but females are human with varying libidos too. Although our biology works a tad differently, we have needs and desires too.
Within our society, a patriarchal framework exists that favors the needs of men — putting them in positions of power to give them favorable treatment. To this day, women have been sexualized and objectified to adhere to the ideals of men.
Under these strict and degrading constructs, females' ability to positively connect with their bodies is a treacherous task. For many, feeling in control of their own body was not a given, considering the ways society has normalized objectifying, purchasing, abusing and generally exploiting the female body.
The repercussions linked to female sexuality have undoubtedly influenced society's perception and interaction with female sexuality.
These repercussions can be seen when understanding the mind-body connection which affects females in a myriad of ways, leaving them confused and sexually damaged, overall influencing their mindset and feelings toward sexual expression.
Since sex has been so culturally tied to heteronormativity and the patriarchy, it wasn’t the most accessible for females to interact with sex in a way that didn’t involve a male or being objectified. Females were not encouraged to explore their bodies, sexually express, or release like males were.
While we were not taught to be sexually curious and explorative, we were subjected to contradictory norms that made females a sex symbol, but only under the power and choice of men.
Females reconnecting with their bodies is beneficial for the psyche and overall well-being.
Learning about intimacy on a personal level will not only enhance our sexuality, but allow us to further understand what we are comfortable with and what we don’t like. As females, constantly taught what we should like and how to behave, such solo exploration is especially empowering and crucial.
While intimacy and sexual exploration with a partner are positive, solo-time can allow us to experience our sexuality without the heavy factors that come from sexual partners, such as STDS, trauma and pregnancy. Given the fact that reproductive rights are not protected nationally, females put themselves at risk of unwanted parenthood with sex.
As females, our respect for ourselves can be practiced in the ways we nourish our sexuality. Female masturbation is healthy, fun, interesting, nourishing and a way to practice self-love. Our bodies exist on their own, without the presence of a male, and were never meant to be used or objectified, unless that is what you desire.
Take care of your body and get to know yourself better; you deserve it.
